Should I be intimidated by his baby mama and him getting back together?
Friday, February 12th, 2010 at
6:53 am
call me stupid but today he have to go to parent teachers conference for his twin girls.and the baby mama going to the thought of them in the car together makes my skin crawl…one big happy family im thinking in my brain..should i be so paranoid and suspicious..i been with him for almost 3yrs and i know if he was like i want u back she would take him back in a heartbeat..but so far he never went that route…should i think negative of all of them together today?
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These are your step kids?? Why shouldn’t you be included on this meeting? You care for the girls too.
i would always suspect that. but thats just me. i personally would never date a guy with so much baggage.
no. if he wanted to be with her, hed be with her. he’s with you. and you’re going to have to get used to it esp since they have kids together, as long as hes in your life, she’ll be there too. i think you should just become friends with the ex. that way she’ll feel guilty trying to take him away from you
You should trust your husband.
That being said, I don’t understand why your husband needs to ride with her to the parent teacher conference.
Trust him and give him the benefit of the doubt…today was about the children, who they mutually care for and love. You could ask to be involved next time, too.
you never really defined who “he” is.
No don’t think negative. I’m sure everything will be fine. I’m sure he doesn’t want to be a baby daddy.
They are the parents of the twins. They should attend parent/teacher conferences together. You are way too jealous or uptight if them being in the same car or room together gets you upset. I think you should date a guy without kids so you don’t have baby mama drama. He will be connected to the twin’s mother for the rest of their lives. 50 plus years honey. Figure out a way to deal or move on.
Your paranoia is justified but it is only paranoia. He must love you because he is with you for 3 years. He is just being a good dad and his ex is their mom. Don’t worry about it. He is yours.
They’re going to a parent teach meeting, not a night club. Stop worrying so much.
be afraid very afraid..
These kids are his? And it makes your skin crawl because he is attending parent teacher conferences with their mom? That is just plain wrong. It does not mean he is doing anything. Those are his children and he seems to have interest in their lives and that is good. A lot of men do not do this. GET OVER IT!
Is anyone married here? That may shed some light on what sounds like your own insecurity.
I can’t believe after 3 years you would consider that they would get back together. Maybe you don’t have enough confidance in your relationship. That is not a good sign.
BTW – Why are you all in one car together? That’s weird.
When you take on a guy who already had children, you take on them, the ex, the money it costs to raise them, and the psychological trauma to your life. You take on the fact that he must in part parent the children he sired.
Some women don’t mind that— others eliminate guys with kids, on their shopping list for a husband, just the same as they might eliminate a guy with lots of tats, or a smoker.
Rather your choice. But he comes with all that baggage. And if you care for him, you get the baggage as well. They came first. You will always be number 3.
it not what they do and bring back the day when today wasn’t the thing with the parent of the child get the best day gone not yet lived in back with her not him
If he’s never given you any reason not to trust him then there’s no reason to be bitter about it. If he wanted her, he’d still be with her. You just have to accept the fact that men with children will ALWAYS have to talk to or do things with his baby’s mamma. Sure it’s a little unpleasant to think of and have to deal with, but that’s just the way it’s going to be. If he’s a good guy. you have to trust him and stay confident in your relationship. That’s the nature of the beast.
Stop and think about the kids don’t you think that it’s important that their parents get along. When the parents fight about anything and everything it hurts them in so many ways. You have been together 3yrs.
it may workout that you stay to gether untill death, But they will always be the natural parents 4 ever. I don’t know if your married or just living together but if you plan on saying then you need to gain trust and
come to an agreement. However if you try to come inbetwee the kids the he will send you packing and well should. Ask yourself do you love him and do you at least care enough for the girls that you can allow them to have as much peace with their parents.
if he’s never given you any indication that he wants her back then why are you threatened by a parent/teacher conference? It’s a waste of your energy and time to worry and fret about situation that is out of your control and will happen again over the course of your lives together.
If this is a personal issue within yourself then you need to work on you and learn how not to be jealous of someone who is no threat to your relationship with him. It doesn’t matter what she would do. you don’t waste time worrying about her. You need to know if you are with an honest and trustworthy man. If he is, then she can parade around the house naked and tell him he can use her as he sees fit and he won’t take the bait.
if he’s given you reason to think that he would drop you for her then why are you with him?
all this boils down to is where is the problem: is it with you or him? If the problem is you then you can fix it. If the problem is him then he’s untrustworthy and the relationship is over.
I first think you should tell him how you feel about the situation and he should respect your situation. Why are they riding in the car together and he has a girlfriend? But likely if he’s been with you for 3 years and there’s been no signs of him wanting her back then you souldn’t be paranoid. But there is always going to be feelings of paranoia but you just have to trust him.